I'm no stranger to feeling insecure at times - it probably happens to me more times than I'd like to admit. Whether it's about work, friendships, blogging, or how I feel about myself - at times I'll feel an overwhelming sense that I'm just not good enough. I think it's normal to feel like this though, we are human after all, and the important thing I've found is that we have to find a way to overcome our insecurities and keep going even when they're trying to hold us back.
"You Will Be Judged, Or You Will Be Ignored"
Do you ever make yourself smaller due to the fear of being judged? For a long time I lived in the safety of being ignored - it's much easier to not make any noise so nobody can then criticise you, but in the long run it's not a very fulfilling way to live. Some people will like you, and your work, your ideas, and support your endeavours, and others will dislike you, criticise your work and judge how you live your life. I've learned I'd much rather give my life and my work 100% and put myself out there in spite of any misjudgements or rejections that may come my way - be okay with being disliked, as the right people will support your every step of the way.
"Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy"
Comparing our lives to those around us is a sure fire way to feel insecure, inadequate, and lost. What we tend to forget is that we're usually comparing our beginning to someone else's middle, and wasting our time feeling envious and behind when instead we could be focusing on moving forward in our own lives. We have to know that our journey and story is different to someone else's, the road we take will be our own and the only way to live is to be present in our own lives. Our successes aren't defined in comparison to someone else's, and life is never a race, no matter how much it feels like it is sometimes. We have to remember that our lives have purpose and value, and that comparison will always, always, be the thief of joy.
"Your Value Doesn’t Decrease Based On Someone’s Inability To See Your Worth"
I've wasted so much of my life allowing myself to be defined by how other people valued me, and listening to the voices and opinions of others over my own. Once I started focusing on my relationship with myself and knowing my own self worth, I stopped caring so much about the opinions of others and whether or not they thought I had value and worth. Surround yourself with people who support you, believe in you, and see how awesome you are - and the people who don't? They don't matter, and sometimes you will just have to remind yourself of that over and over again.
How do you overcome feeling insecure?
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